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Who Defines Morality?

June 28, 2015 — 1 Comment

equal justice under law

This week, after the Supreme Court decision, Christian bloggers from across the globe took to the internet to express their opinion. Social media lit up with a flood of cheers as well as an onslaught of groans. I would venture to say the hashtag of #lovewins is likely one of the most trending topics on the internet.

I don’t know that I have anything new or unique to add to this topic, yet I feel compelled to chime in. As I read many of the blogs over the past few days, my heart just broke. It broke for 2 very distinct reasons:

1. My heart broke for those who call themselves Christian and spew such hatred and venom in their rhetoric. No matter your opinion on the subject, we are to always walk in love (now, that doesn’t mean we don’t express our opinion – we just need to have a better method of doing so…read more below).

2. My heart broke for Christians who have a distorted view of what Godly love is and of what Jesus demonstrated as love.  My heart breaks for the Christians that have compromised God’s Word and refuse to make a statement. My heart breaks for those Christians who don’t love their neighbors enough to tell them the truth found in the Word of God. My Heart breaks at an open acceptance by Christians of a sin.

Let me state the obvious: I believe in the Biblical definition of marriage – one man and one woman. Period. End of story. Let me be absolutely clear as a follow up to that statement – this does not mean I think anything less of the LGBT community or their desire to “marry”.  Do I think it is a sin? Yes. Do I believe the Bible calls it a sin? Yes. Do I love these people? Without a doubt!

I also think stealing, cheating, adultery and fornication are sins – but yet I love those people as well. There is no difference in my eyes – one person is not worse than another due to their sin.  The Bible is clear in Romans 3:23

For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God!

You, me, everyone. We have all fallen short.

As Christians, it is our job to be the light in a dark world and the example of God’s love – not His judgement.

The Supreme Court of the United States does not and cannot define morality – nor can they re-write God’s law. Yes, I believe all people should be treated equally with equal rights, but I do not believe that a “law” should be made that encourages someone to walk further out of God’s will for their lives.

If a law made by our legals system stands contrary to God’s law, we must express our concern. We as Christians must stand up and be the voice of morality according to the Bible.

I am fully aware that others will not agree with my opinion just as I don’t necessarily agree with theirs. That is what I love about our great country. We all share an equal right to believe what we believe and to freely express those beliefs without fear of persecution.

So where do we go from here? As a Christian, how do we proceed?

To me, it is simple. We show the world what #LoveWins really means. We show them that 2,000 years ago love won because a man died on a cross for you and for me. He died to free us of our sins. We show the world – just as Jesus did – that we can love and that sometimes love means we tell you what our God defines as a sin – that we open our Bibles and share with you the Truth.

Our desire should be the same as God’s desire – that none shall perish, but that all shall have everlasting life. The only way to do that is by boldly declaring His words through love.

I am reminded of Isaiah 40:8

The grass withers, the flowers fade, but the Word of our God stands forever.

There is nothing that can come out of Washington DC that will change the Word of God. To those in the LGBT and Christian community – let us find a better way to have the discourse. Hear me clearly, on behalf of Christians – we are sorry for any hatred spewed toward you – that is not the intent. We desire to introduce you to a savior that is all sufficient, all encompassing and all loving. It might sound foreign based on what you have seen – but Jesus desires nothing else but to love you and show you a better way.

Question: How do you show God’s love?


Spoiler alert, this is one of those posts where I am going to be both transparent and vulnerable. As I am always seeking to grow into the Man of God that I am called to be, I know that being open and honest with my thoughts and emotions are the key to victory.

Father’s Day is one of those days that can open a Pandora’s box of emotions. Some good, some bad. It’s not even the day itself that does this, but rather the very mention of the word “father”.

Whether you like to admit it or not, we all have a father. For some, we were blessed to have a father of integrity and character who loved us unconditionally. For others, the word father represents a gap in our lives. It represents a time of hurt. For some of us our dad’s are simply, in the words of James Taylor, “the same old well-known stranger.”

For me, I have a mix of both. I have my biological father who to this day is the “same old well-known stranger” and I have my Step-Father (who has never been “step” but always loved me like his own). My biological father knows very little about me, nor has he ever expressed interest. My other father took me in as his own son, guided me, directed me and showed me unconditional love.

This dichotomy for me always raised questions during my childhood. Confusion would set in nearly every time I spoke to my biological father. The big question of “why” would take up residence in my mind. Why is he not involved, why does he not call me more often, why does he not ask about my interests, why does he not encourage me, why is he so distant?

And I know full well there are others who have experienced situations with their fathers that are horrific and beyond belief. From abuses to abandonment, the sad reality is, many of us do not have a good basis for what a father is.

So when the moment comes for us to acknowledge God as our father, doubt sets in. What we have experienced previously taints us in our expectations of what it means to call God father.

It’s amazing though how your mindset can shift. When I came to know Jesus, it was God as my loving father that drew me in. It was the concept that He loved me unconditionally. Sinner or saint, I was his beloved child. For me, it took many years as a believer to fully grasp this concept.

Truthfully, I think I was always waiting for God to walk away.

And then, I had my son. My world was forever changed. I remember well crying and praying over him just minutes after he was born. I remember making an oath to him then that I would always be by his side, that I would never leave him nor forsake him. I promised to guide him to the best of my ability to become the man and warrior of God that he is destined to be.

It was that day that I started to fully comprehend it. God loves me the same way. He has promised to never leave me or forsake me. He has promised to guide me, direct me, and best of all, love me.

No matter how your earthly father was, good or bad, God intends to be so much more. He desires relationship.

My prayer today is that we not let any preconception of “father” misguide us into what God has promised for us. Today, be honest with God. Tell Him that you need a loving father, and I promise He will fill that spot.

Question: When did you come to the realization of God’s amazing love as our Father?



In the book of Numbers we read the story about Moses sending 12 spies into the promised land. If I were to ask you to name the 10 that came back with a bad report, could you? Likely not without looking it up. But, the odds are better that you could name the 2 that did: Caleb and Joshua.

Why is that? They were all named in the Bible. Quite simply, society never remembers those that don’t think big.

There are countless truths that can be extracted from Numbers 13 and 14 and I am going to take a couple posts over the next few days to look at some of those.

First, let’s jump right into the 2nd verse of Chapter 13 where God is speaking to Moses:

“Send men to spy out the land of Canaan, which I am giving to the children of Israel; from each tribe of their fathers you shall send a man, every one a leader among them.” (Emphasis added)

This is simple. The spies were entering with the foreknowledge that they will be getting this land. God declared and spoke it – and since God cannot lie, it is truth.

We too are walking with the same foreknowledge today! God has already declared victory for you!

Yet, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us! (Romans 8:37 NKJV)

And that is not even the tip of the iceberg on promises from Him! If you want more, just go back in my posts – there are plenty that we talk about.

We fast forward in Numbers 13 and the spies returned after 40 days in the land of Canaan:

27 Then they told him, and said: “We went to the land where you sent us. It truly flows with milk and honey, and this is its fruit. (Emphasis added)

The spies all agree and verbally declare that the land is good and abundant. Unfortunately, it doesn’t stop there:

28Nevertheless the people who dwell in the land are strong; the cities are fortified and very large; moreover we saw the descendants of Anak there. 29The Amalekites dwell in the land of the South; the Hittites, the Jebusites, and the Amorites dwell in the mountains; and the Canaanites dwell by the sea and along the banks of the Jordan.”

The slippery slope of self doubt and fear begins. And then, enter one of my Biblical Hero’s, Caleb to weigh in on the whole situation:

30 Then Caleb quieted the people before Moses, and said, “Let us go up at once and take possession, for we are well able to overcome it.”

Caleb did not suggest putting together an attack plan or developing a strategy for a military campaign – he simply said, now is the time! When God puts something before us, I am convinced that the time to act is now – do not delay! We will always have a million reasons why something should wait until tomorrow – but just as Caleb declared – we must take the promised land that God is giving us now!

This is just the start of it all – look for the follow up on Saturday as we explore the remaining promises we can find in this story!

Question: Can you share a time when you acted in the courageous manner that Caleb did and saw God come through in an amazing way?

Decision Points

September 4, 2012 — Leave a comment

Decision Points

Decisions points are an interesting time in life.  We are constantly faced with them.  Small decisions, large decisions.  Some just impact our day, and others might impact our life as a whole.  There are times when the right answer is directly in front of us…but there are also those times when it seems to be just out of reach.

No matter the size or weight of the decision, the Word is very clear on the right process for decision making:

Delight yourself also in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, And He shall bring  it  to pass. (Psalm 37:4, 5 NKJV)

The promise: He will give you the desires of your heart.

The preface: Delight yourself in Him, trust Him, commit your way to Him.

I am not going to spend too much space here discussing the wording on desires of your heart and what exactly those are – but rather the formula involved:  Delight + trust + commitment = God’s direction for your life

There is a key to every door that needs opening…and the great thing for us is we have been given the instructions on how to make that key.

Verse 5 says He shall bring it to pass….that means that whatever you are holding out for – whatever you are standing in faith for – He will ensure you make it through.  And, by “through” it does not mean by the skin of your teeth – but rather, in a better position then how you went in.

No matter the decision, no matter the stage you are in, if you follow this simple formula, He will always bring you to a better road than you could possibly discover on your own.

Question: What are some practical ways you put this formula to work in your everyday life?